Hi All!
I would like to know if anyone has any ideas on how to become able to see those who have passed on because my husband can see them, but I can't. He's tried to tell me what to look for, stuff like sparkling blue lights like fire-flies that outline the shape first and then reveal the person-he says when he sees them this is how they come into view-sort of like looking at something or someone in the dark after letting your eyes adjust. He has dark brown eyes, mine are blue and I'm nearsighted-he's a bit farsighted but other than that, perfect vision so anything you might think of to help would be appreciated.

I posted mistakenly in the 'Out of Bounds' section of the boards, you may have seen my post about 'visitors in our home' who are disturbing our pet birds on a regular basis. Only my husband can see the perpetrator, a 1940's attired 9 or 10 year old girl who after she either pulls off the cover to our birds who have been covered for the night, somehow removes them from their secured cages without untwisting the tie wires to one of their doors, but here's a first, tonight she not only pulled the cover off once, but about 20 minutes later we heard our lovebirds screaming their distress call only to come out to find one of the cages completely removed from its setting place (it's the one which we have to lift it up to let one of the pair out-they are separated because they would fight if they had to share a cage) anyway, the cage was placed on the floor complete with the cover on it and the bird stuck inside the cage. My husband says the girl was dressed the same as before and waved at us before slipping through the wall clearly entertained at what she just did!

In closing, thanks for any ideas-I'll try them out and see if there is any success in doing whatever you can think of.

Hi hunny...not too many suggestions here really, normally people either have the gift or they dont...but I will say this, try talking to her at every moment when you think about her or when your hubby sees her. This of course goes for both of you...talk to her and go from there, go with the flow but treat her like she was any other non spirit child, she is "acting out" as any other child would, talk to her on that level and see how it goes. It may work or we may have to "tweak" it a bit. If she's doing something that you don't like or that can cause harm then tell her so...good luck hun

you may be limiting your own abilities by just focusing on being able to "see" spirits. there are many ways we can sense them and use our senses to interact with them. you may have gifts of hearing, touching, smelling and even interpreting the intent and signs of a spirit. do some experimentation with your other senses.

First, take ownership of your home. Ghosts of a dark nature like to frighten you and feed off of your fear so, as calmly as possible, tell it you want it to leave and why. You could say: "This is my house and I don't like it when you--fill in the blank--, so please leave this house immediately." The more firm and less afraid you are, the better. Ghosts rarely have any significant power in our world and they rely upon the fear they can generate in you as one of their biggest weapons so try not to provide it for them.

If you have told the ghost to leave several times (it could take a few tries) and it still hasn't left, you may either have a ghost that doesn't know that it is dead or a ghost that needs something before if can leave. Try telling the ghost that it is no longer physical and needs to move on, toward the light.

Still not gone? Try asking it what it needs and see if you can discern an answer. Admittedly, not everyone can communicate with ghosts so if you are stuck here, maybe it is time to seek outside help from a ghost investigator or psychic. Not only can they document your ghost's presence and validate your experiences, they may also be able to communicate with your ghost and get it to move on.

Sharing your home with a ghost can be many things--fun, uncomfortable, frightening, interesting, or exciting--depending on your outlook and the type of spirit present. While some people are quite happy about it, there are probably just as many, if not more, who are not. No matter which way you feel, it's important to look, beyond your fear or excitement, at what is actually happening in your home.

If, upon inspection, you discover an unwanted presence, try using the previously mentioned removal suggestions since they have been found to be fairly effective. If that doesn't work, try to educate yourself about the ghost, the house and various removal techniques, as much as possible. Since knowledge is power, using this knowledge can boost your confidence, lessen your fear, and provide you with the information you will need to restore your home back to the welcoming and safe environment you want it to be.

Try local newspapers, and the tv stations and see if there is any information about your neighborhood or home that would warrant such a haunting. Neighbors could be experiencing something simialr and unwilling or unable to share their expeiences, try to get them to warm up to you about the subject by discussing the history of the area. That can be a great help to all involved.

Blessings Bright and Dark,

Sounds like she is board... I know I would be if I only had one place to haunt...
I agree that we can feel see encounter things diferently than each other. If your husband can see her and you can not perhaps you can feel her... her wants and needs, it may by what she is trying for, if he can see her and yet she is still being a trouble maker perhaps she is waiting for you, a women to connect with her on a motherly way feeling.....

Thanks to all for your suggestions, the sensing part may be something I am able to do because we both have experienced feeling her presence since day 1 five yrs. ago when we moved in, and it was and is when we are in the shower. She basically stands outside the shower door-I think I have only had a few glimpses of her head but only through the blur of the shower door. My husband says he never told me of this same experience until the recent bird cage incidents. Now, the other night when I was in the shower after we had the bird cover flipped off twice I got to thinking 'Now I wonder if she's gonna come back and let one of the birds out.' Well, shortly after that thought as I was washing my hair sure enough I hear the joyful chirping of one of the birds obviously out of his cage-the cage with the twist ties on the doors! Got out of the shower, opened the bathroom door and he flies up to the top of the door to give his 'hi there!' chirp and after drying off I put him to bed without further incident.

Last night was different, we decided to put a large spool that remained after some wire was spooled off by the telephone repairman on top of the cage and as we both went to bed and decided to read a bit before nodding off a small commotion that sounded like an object falling happened so we went out there. My husband asked her if her name was Louise, (my paternal grandmother) and he says she nodded 'No' and giggled with her hand over her mouth. We both let her know that we don't like her disturbing the birds at bedtime and since she appears to my husband to be a 9 or 10 year old we think she's just bored and having a bit of fun with some harmless pranks. She's welcome as long as she doesn't hurt any of us.

There are others my husband has seen who seem to have a pathway from the far kitchen wall through another wall in the living room but they all seem to just pass on through. When my father died the next day after my husband saw him reach out from behind me to touch my shoulder as I washed dishes and he came to my husband on successive visits to tell me through him to do more research on my mother who basically left the state of California and whom I was able to locate and also, on several of those visits he was enjoying the company of the birds simply watching them through the cages. Dad likes to catch my husband out of the blue but since my finding Mom he hasn't shown up so I suppose he's moved on or is enjoying some of his favorite travel destinations in the tropics which he did when he traveled as part of his job.

Meanwhile, if anything becomes negative we'll just ask her or any others to just leave and firmly-maybe even backing it up with the burning of a Native American smudge of hand picked sage.