I had a miscarriage this summer. (candle)  We are trying to get pregnant again but I am a little nervous about having another miscarriage.  I know that if it is meant to be, it will be.  I read through the herbs to avoid.  Is there anything that can help promote a healthy pregnancy?
Blessed Be and Many Thanks!
Riki

I am sorry to hear of your loss Riki.  I am sure you have heard all the it was no the right time etc , etc.  But it is a common thing , even though very sad.  One of the main things you need to do is keep a positive mind and not dwell on the loss and worry that it may happen again.  Easy said I know.

I have put in a few crystals that may be of help to you.

Moonstone  -  great for fertility.

Agate ( the banded)  -  a grounding stone.  Improves perception and analytical qualities.  Balances yin and yang, harmonizes physical, emotional, mental and etheric qualities.  Soothing and calming.  Raises consciousness and builds self - confidence.  Stabilizes the arua, eliminates negativity.  Overcomes bitterness of the heart and inner anger.  Fosters love, truthfulness and courage.  

Rose quartz  -  helps heal the heart.  Calms and reassures and brings that deep inner healing.  Releases blockages from unexpressed emotions, opens heart chakra, soothes wounded heart and internalized pain.  Aids self - forgivness and acceptance.  Said to increase fertility.

Bloodstone  -  a good cleanser of the body and energy.  Benefits all blood rich organs, regulates blood flow.  Cleanses lower chakras, realigning energies.  A stone of courage.

Unakite  -  Treats reproductive system , aids in healthy pregnancy.

I felt the moodstone mainly for fertility and is a soothing female stone; the agate to help with the loss and gain self love again; rose quartz for fertility and soothing to the heart and so you release any self blame; bloodstone for the courage to know that all is well; unakite for the aid of healthy pregnancy.

I hope this helps.  But all things in their own time, learn from the loss the lessons that are there for you and your relationship.  Know that all will be well and move forward.  Positive affirmations as well all help.

Blessings to you, I will light a candle that all goes well from now on for you and yours.

Kath

Thank you Kath.  I have been trying to be positive.  I do believe that things happen for a reason.  I have learned that this is very common, surprisely.  I appreciate your help and words of encouragement.  I know in my heart it will work out.

Hi Riki,

Being positive is a huge step. Working with your doctor to find what is best for you will help as well. Be sure to remember that YOUR health has to be good first. I had 4 miscarriages and know about the feeling of loss and inadequecy that comes it.

I found that talking to people, family and my doctor helped immensely. Remember that many times we have miscarriages and don't even know we are pregnant. The body does away with pregnancies that are faulty...that helped me alot.

Kath has some stellar choices for stones, and I would also include carnelian with her selections. And, if you desire, do a search here on the site and find out all the info we offer. Your doctor will have many ideas and suggestions in regards to your particular condition and situation.

Best wishes for you and your partner on this journey. Be grateful, and love yourself....you are the beginning, and know we are here for you.

Blessings Bright and Dark,

I have read that red raspberry leaf tea is good for pregnancy some where.  you might try that too.  I am sorry to hear about your loss.  I hope the next pregnancy goes well.

I'm going to be very obvious here, but sometimes that's what we fail to see:

Talk to your doctor and find out what s/he suggests in the way of fertility (not necessarily drugs). Also, have a health check yourself. Exercise regularly, but don't over do it, eat healthy and most of all relax. If you are stressed out or poorly nourished (lacking in essential vitamins and minerals, etc.) it will be difficult to become pregnant. Keep in touch with your spirituality at all times - this will help you relax. And of course, check your cycle for your most fertile days.

My mother was not able to become pregnant until she had fully given up on the prospect of having a child because it was only then that she was able to relax enough to make it happen. You seem to be at peace with yourself and your life which I believe to be the most important thing. Best of luck to you and warmest wishes. Blessed Be.

Riki, my thoughts and prayers to you, you loved one and your lost little one.

I have had over, well far to many to count, miscarriages between my midddle (21) and my youngest (15). I often wondered what was it I did? Was I not supposed to have that child, and why? Was I a bad person? Was my lifetyle so bad? why? why? why?

it wasn't for many years later I found my answer, the soul that should have incarnated in that body simpy was not ready. No soul means no need for that body any longer.

Take all of these words lof kindness, wisdom and caring, and do what feels right for you.

when the time is right, you will have your little one.

I found this website and thought it might be helpful for you. It offers some natural ways to enhance your chances of becoming pregnant as well as suggesting some supplements.

    Smart Stork


http://www.smartstork.com/page5.asp

Novia is right,  you'll have your baby when the time is right.  I know miscarriages hurt but they happen for a reason, some times we never know why.  Some times we find out later.

My mother has a disease called endometriosis It causes excess uterine tissue to grow both inside and even out side of her uterus.  This tissue makes it hard to carry a fetus to term.  When she was 19 she miscarried twins.  To make sure there was nothing left to go septic, they dilated her and scraped out all the excess tissue.  A few months later she became pregnant with me.  If she had never miscarried my siblings she would never have been able to carry me, and later my brother,  to term.

I know it is hard to face the disappointment of losing a baby, but it happened for a reason.  You may never know that reason, but some day you will have the child you are meant to have, when the time is right.  Maybe this lose has made you stronger in some way so that when you do get your child you can take better care of them.  Or maybe the baby just wasn't ready.  What ever the reason keep your head up and know you'll be a mother when the time is right.