ok so although i'm in a relationship that im happy in, lately ive been having dream "meetings" with someone else i have a strong emotional connection to. Some time ago we decided to just be friends even though we're very attracted to each other and have strong emotional ties because we had stronger feelings for our now parteners. Although we were both satisfied with this decision we couldnt get rid of the lingering feelings and they seemed to build until about a week ago we started meeting in our dreams (use ur imagination here). Its not something we consciously do but it helped relieve some of the stress b/w us and it's still happeneing. I wonder tho if this is particularly healthy, or if it could be considered cheating (although i'm inclined to think its not). Any thoughts, similar experiences, or advice?

Are you both consciously trying to meet each other in your dreams? If not, then I am inclined to go with what those type of dreams show us..which is what we are missing in our current relationship..not necessarily sex. But by looking at what happens in the dream and the feelings that are brought out in the dream, that shows what is missing with our partner at the moment. (Note, these can change as time goes on and the relationship naturally evolves).
Or it could be your way of working through feelings of this other man. As well as his way of working through them with you (if he is dreaming the same thing).

Is it cheating? Well not in my opinion, unless you two are making a conscious effort to share dreams with each other.
As my husband tells me.."I can't be held responsible for what happens in your dreams".
The dream world is our place to deal with things that we need to work out. Sometimes this is subconscious things that we didn't realize we were having a problem with, sometimes it is things we are conscious of. If you two have decided to not be together, then you need to look at the dreams and see which one feels right to you. Either something; passion, attentiveness, etc; is missing in your current relationship. Or, you are getting this other man out of your system, so to speak.

I hope that helps you. And that you find peace with yourself and the other parties involved in this.
ladyalpha

Well this isnt the first time that I have risked stepping on people's toes and I know that it will NOT be the last time.
Im picking up strong feelings here that you both ARE making a conscious effort to join in your dreams...and Im sorry to say this but Im not not one for saying something because it's what you want to hear...but in my opinion yes this is cheating. You cannot possibly kid yourself otherwise.
One random meeting in a dream might be seen as a coincidence and maybe twice at a stretch but with the frequency of these dreams I think that you need to be a bit more honest with yourself.
It's not up to me what you do about it...that decision is entirely yours but things cannot run the way they are without people getting hurt.
Im sorry that I am not saying what you want to hear...I believe in honesty, sometimes it gets me into trouble but I deal with that.
I wish you well and that you look again at your life and the things that you willingly do

Blessings

Thanks guys. I appreciate your honesty esp since thsi is not really my area of speciality. usually the only people who come to talk to me in my dreams are people who've already passed on. I do think thsi is something i need to work out. and i would apprewciate him comming to me when we're awake to say what he needs to say. Ur advice helped