Ah Ah...there is a Relationships Board...but no one has posted anything on this subject yet. How very interesting...

Ok, let me start...

What are the 5 most important characteristics you look for in a relationship?

I will post mine later...

1) Complete honesty, radical
2)With an open heart, someone with no fear to love
3)I must admit BEAUTY, no hard feelings ok? but I cant resist a beautiful woman, for me inner and outside are equally important
4)Kundalini!!!! I like a woman who destilates passion even from her very palms
5)Availability. So no married women or in a relationship

that would be my top 5 qualities....

Blessings

Thor Merlin

My apologies, you are right, I should have answered the question myself first..promise to do in future..

now..for me...

1: has to what we call in Greece, "filotimo" perhaps translated as integrity

2: communication

3: truth, I despise liars with a vengence!!! tell the truth always, and then deal with the consequences, but you certainly will have a clear conscious

4: humour - aaahhh but what is laughter if not music for the soul

5: passion - passion - and more passion!!! not just in the bedroom, but in everything you do...

Seeing as I've been divorced for 12+years, it's not so difficult to put into words, just difficult to find the man who posesses all the traits to my liking. (crying)

1) Honesty- which can and is sometimes tempered with diplomacy, and always presented with kindness.

2) Compassionate - to his fellow man, understanding of their plights, hardships, thoughts feelings and emotions. Willing to give of himself to assist someone in need.

3) passionate - about something. Truly having a well thought out opinion and stance on something and willing to "put up or shut up" about it, over it or for it.

4) loyalty - to me, family friends and their career. A true "stand up" sort of person.

5) deep - thinker, feeler. Intellegent enough to understand many points of view, deeply emotional to be able to make love to my soul as well as my body.

1. Intergrity (which, to me, would include honesty and loyalty)
2. Willingness to compromise
3. Autonomy (or not having the need to be joined to me at the hip or having to do EVERYTHING together)
4. Secure in Self ( non-jealous or overly possesive)
5. Intelligence

I think my number 1 thing would be communication because hell...if you can't talk about everything with your partner then your only sharing half of yourself.
#2 Honesty in everything Life, sex and so on...
#3 Passion if you lose that.....you lose everything else(trust me. that's where I'm at right now with hubby)
#4 Sense of humor-ability to laugh at yourself
#5 Respect- for self and others.
Have to add one more thing....the ability to forgive yourself and others. We are our own worst enemies and if you can't forgive yourself for mistakes you've made well, chances are you won't be able to forgive others for stuff they've done either.

Hmm. Well, here goes.

1: Pure love. None of that false stuff where you smile and nod and pretend. It has to be true.
2: Openness and honesty. What's the point of a relationship if you're hiding things all the time? Or if something bothers you about your partner and you aren't willing to say it?
3: Friendship. To be close to one another you must be able to first, be friends, and then lovers.
4: Acceptance. Admittedly, if there's something you don't like, you can alert them. But, trying to change someone, trying to get them to bend to your will - that isn't loving.
5: Common interests and intelligence levels [Okay, I slipped in two, but they're both important]. What would you have to talk about if there were no common intrests? And, it's always important to be able to uphold conversation that interests both of you. Who likes having to dumb it down all the time?

Welp, those are my values.

Well with a divorce behind me and a new relationship now I would have to say my most important qualities in a partner would be :

1. Equality ( this is in decision making, stature in the house hold).
2. Sex ( I'm with you alora it has to be good, this would also hold passion in there)
3. Honesty
4. Humor
5. Respect for himself and all in the house ( in this area I place sobriety, work ethics and pride)

I like this thread. Although I would have about another five, but these are the five most important to me.

I have actually thought about this a lot over my few years of bein "on the market" or whatever (I'm only 19!). Im currently with someone and was simply surprised by how he met my previous list of wants, my prayers were answered. But problems in the relationship have made me re-evaluate. For instance, i asked for sum1 who would make me their number one priority. Now I realise the phrase "be careful what you wish for", as now I have to deal with jealousy and a certain loss of freedom. Im still happy with him, but if I cud change one thing about the relationship that wud be it. I can work on seeing if things change, and if not then I have to figure what I want most, commitment to him or a greater sense of freedom.

So anyway, on with the list! Btw I left love off the list, as I think that's a given!

1. Sense of humour- When I'm happy n hyper I do strange things, so I need someone who'll think those crazy noises and faces r cute/ funny, not scary!

2. Honesty- I need to know what's going on, simple as that. Liars don't make good partners, I've been there enuf times.

3. Patience/tolerance- I can be infuriating, I've learnt that, because my memory is abysmal. But I am patient n tolerant with other ppl, so I expect the same back.

4. Beauty- I mean inside as well as out. Being attracted to someone always has a physicality about it obviously. But I mean inner beauty more, someone who can appreciate and love life and beauty around them, I think that's beautiful.

5. Security- To be secure is to understand that changes aren't always negative, that I'm happy with them, that everything's gona be ok, as well as making me feel safe and secure in their presence.

Love the thread btw!

Foxi

1. Honesty--with oneself as well as with others.
2. Appreciation for the REALLY important things in life.
3. Sense of humor toward the universe, life and everything. This
is a requirement for putting up with me in the first place.)
4. Someone who stops and listens to their soul--not a pathetic,
earthbound ego.
5. A sort of non-linear approach to life and its situations, a subtle
yet very profound sense of identity and self-awareness--some-
one who has been through the best and worst that life has to
offer and still comes out stronger and wiser for it all. (A little
hard to explain.)

Honesty~ that means with your self as well as with everyone else. This would be the most important trait!

Passion ~ that means for anything, what you do for work, what you believe, what you do for fun, I go at everything I do this way, some do not understand it and can mock the things I am passionate about, but I
would love to see it in a partner.

A good sense of humor ~ The ability to laugh at our own faults and find the humor in even bad situations, (if you don�t laugh you may cry) this is how I was raised. To just laugh for the sake of laughing, And damn it just frigin smile once in a wile. That would be a very important piece of a good relationship.

Loyalty~ this is to everything ones beliefs ones self and there for others.

Caring~ for your self and for others liking to make other feel cared about.

Ugg this little exercise made my eyes leak.

I need
1) honesty & open communication
2) passion (for life, work, play, etc)
3) someone who is hard working/self-motivated
4) someone who is accepting of new ideas that may be different from their own (adventurous also falls in this category)
5) someone who is able to claim responsibility for their own decisions/actions (or non-actions)

5 Most Important things in a relationship

1. Stability (I want to know the person can take care of themselves emotionally and financially)
2. Humor ( love being able to laugh)
3. Friendship (Just cause when it's all said and done you know you want someone  you enjoy hanging out with)
4. Personality (this kind of falls into the same category as Passion in a sense, but what I mean is said person isn't just one dimensional. They have different things to talk about)
5. Loyalty (Blame this one on the Scorpio in me, but I love knowing that someone is willing to stick by me as much as I am them no matter the trouble we get into)

I think that covers my general criteria.

Spark ~ he's gotta be good looking AND good in bed

Smart ~ he's gotta be able to think for himself and have opinions

Integrity ~ for me that is all encompassing of trust, honesty, loyalty, and respect

Humor ~ no being serious all of the time, that takes too much energy

Common Interests ~ gotta be able to do things together that you both enjoy

I am lucky, I have all of these things in my hubby.  The only improvement would be if we could add camping & the beach to this list of common interests ...... his idea of camping is tenting the the backyard!  And the beach?  Forget it, its hard enough getting him in the pool.  But I still go without him, and we have plenty of other things that we do together to fill our time.