Well, today sucks! I finally got some info regarding my daughters Thyroid condition and found out she needs to see a specialist. So I call the school and find out that I have to go to court because she has missed to much school! The school knows what is going on, I have called them everytime Sam is sick trying to keep them in the circle of information. But apparently they have no choice. So now I have to get proof Sam is ill, and take it to court. I will probably be fined and put on probation. This sucks big time!!! (bang) A rep from the school will be there also. They want me to get a form to take with me to the pediatrician to have them fill out, and maybe they can accomodate Sam better? I am soooooo frustrated!!!! Cant seem to win either way I turn and poor Sam, she feels like crap to begin with, then having people tell her she is lazy, which she is not, makes things worse!! arrrggghhhh!!!!!!!

I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. It would be nice if simple paperwork from the doctor would be enough to satisfy the school and you would not have to go to court. Perhaps someone needs to take the paperwork and stand up to the right school official and and tell them that they are harrassing a sick child instead of trying to help her because of their attitude toward her missisng school. They are not caring about her health and well being, just their stupid rules. In my opinion it is criminal when holier than thou adminstrators uphold rules without caring what the whole picture is. In my opinion, whoever is responsible for this should be given a good "what for" and I would talk to local newspapers and TV stations and get some bad press going for school adminstration and rally support from other families in the area. I think an apology would be in order from the school in their pursuit of court proceedings against a sick child and her family.

Neena,
Also it might help if her attendance record before was good and she is keeping up with her studies. If this is so, you can also present this to school officials along with the paperwork from the doctor. Good luck.
SisterWolf

Gee thanks everyone for all the support, you dont't know how much that means to me and Sam. I called the Dr's office yesterday, and they will provide me with the proof that Sam has been to the Dr's and proof that she is going to see a specialist if necessary. So hopefully that is a good thing. Yes I am trying very hard to CMA cause the schools are so adamant now about having to have your childs missing days covered by a Dr's note. I have called them repeatedly to give them updates so they were in the loop, hoping that would keep them off our backs if you will. I really wont know more until I get the letter about the court date, and the appointment time from the primary Dr. Ya know it is funny, yesterday when I was talking to the principle of the school, she said " We arent against you, we just have rules to follow" she also seemed to be willing to try to adjust Sams classes or somthing to help her out. I am not sure what that is all about yet, and she didnt seem to be quite sure either. Either way, I don't see how they can punish me or Sam, because she has a medical condition. Iam hoping if I go to this court meeting and present them with this information, they will drop the whole thing. Other wise, I am preparing for battle.......
I have had enough of this crap and no one will belittle my child for somthing she has no control over.
Thank you all for your support for us.

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. Being that I work in a doctors office, this is not the first time I've heard of this happening. A lady that is a patient in my office is going through the same thing. I personally think it's rediculous that things like this happen when it's not your fault for your child being ill. I'll be saying prayers and sending energy your way.

Neena,sorry to hear about all the trouble with school,may I suggest asking the school if your daughter could be put on independent study,that what I did when my son was sick with IBS,anxity disorder,he missed 75 days of school in one year,that worked for us,I pray that everything works out for you and your daughter feels better real soon.BLESSINGS TO ALL

So awful that you and your daughter have to deal with the added stress coming from the school!
You would think when there career choice is to deal with children there main concern would be the child, sorry to hear that it is not!
This is a great place to vent, and get good advice, so yell away

Well, I just returned from the court. The judge was nice enough, he listened, and such. We told them that we had taken Sam to the Dr and she referred her to a specialist, because she felt herself not able to determine what was the best to do for Sam. We showed her certificate for Honor Roll for last month, and tried to explain what was going on. We also let him know that we had done our best to keep the school informed and we keep getting her work and returning it to the school. That she doesnt like missing shcool.He suggested that we come back in a week to update from the Specialist. Then the schools person, showed a letter from Sams Dr, one we never recieved, that stated that Sam should be able to attend school. (!!!!!!!!) Excuse me?? How in the sam blazes can she make that statement to the school when she never even told us the basics of Thyroid to begin with, no info at all, (the specialist would do that) and not even talk to us, yet she works against Sam? I personally dont think she had the right to make that statement when she is not treating Sam. I am so disapointed in this person. My hubby was livid, he says we wont be returning to this Dr and will find another. (He is treated for his Thyroid condition by her also).

So now it seems no matter what happens, we will be fined and placed on probation. I am praying that this new specialist will help us. The judge asked that we ask her to send somthing regarding sams condition and how it will affect her so he can make a better decision. He also stated that he and his wife are going thru some stuff with their daughter and he understands. (???) So anyway that is what happened.

Ya know, instead of being really angry, I am just so disapointed in this community. I understand that children need a good and proper education, and I totally agree. But I also feel that regardless if rules and such their should be a exception for children who are sick.
Oh well, just need help to prepare for the next round..............

I looked online at the AMA, not quite sure how to report, seems they dont want personal medical cases? Do I write to them? I have never had to do this before. I have also changed Sam to a different Dr. I tried to speak to her first Dr, but she is not in the office today.

Neena,so sorry to hear about all this s--- you're going thru,just a fast question did you sign a record release for your daughters medical records,if so ask the new doctor what was recomended as far as your daughter attending school,there should be something in her chart regarding school.I pray all goes well for you and your family,BLESSINGS TO ALL

First of all, I want to say "Thank you" to all of you for all of your kindness and support, it is truly appreciated.

Now on to the news; I took Sam to the pediatrician yesterday. After waiting almost an hour to see her, , She talked to us quite a bit. She drew 3 vials of blood, to retest Sams levels, and also had her fill out 2 different forms regarding anxiety and depression.
When she returned, she stated that she will call me with the results sometime during the week, hopefully she will be able to get them soon, and also that Sam is suffering pretty extreme anxiety and depression, which she is starting to treat with "Buspar". She is also looking for a "Good" clinical psychiatrist or pyschologist she can refer Sam to. She asked me if I felt comfortable with any in the area, and I told her of one I refused to let my child see.She has concerns( or so it seemed to me) about the "professionalism" of most of the Dr.'s here in most fields. She will call me regarding what she finds about that also. She flat out told me that the schools didnt care one tad about childrens health, that is was "all about the money they get for the child attending that school". She filled out the form the school gave me, stating Sam had anxiety/Depression issues, and she required tutoring until meds are adjusted properly. She says she wants to seem Sam in one month to see whats going on and make further adjustments or what not. She was very kind and supportive and treated Sam as a person she cared about, and talked to us and acknowleged us as concerned parents. It was a relief to see this Dr and even Sam was relaxed and not stressed talking to her. So far so good! Oh my hubby got his throat looked at, due to him having Thyroid, and was told his is in bad shape and needs to be scanned! Then on the way home we got caught in a "white out" blizzard!! Boy was that stressfull for a while!!
This morning tho- the Special Education person called to see what we had learned. She was blunt and rude for the most part. I told her everything we had learned. She kept saying "Oh really, hmmm" and it seemed like I was talking to someone who didnt like us or our child, and doubted everything I said. I told her I would be returning the form to the school and also a copy of her perscription from the Dr, and that Sam required tutoring. She wasnt to happy about it. She stated that Sam would probably be able to go to the District office to get help with the work she didn't understand. I told her I was sorry, but being we only have one vehicle and that my hubby used it for work, Sam required that a tutor come to her home. (I know that this is possible, as one of the older daughters friends had a tutor come to his home to help). This didnt make her happy either. Oh well, they are supposed to help her, not do what is convient for them.
I have made copies of everything about Sams meds and the form for the school for myself, the school and the Circut Court Judge I have to see on Friday. Hopefully I will also have heard somthing regarding the Thyroid tests by then. I dont know what is going to happen, we may still be fined and put on probation, but I am not giving up.... please keep Sam in your thoughts. She needs all the support she can get.

Hi Neena,

Wow.. even though what you are going through is very hectic, it sounds like you are on the right track with Sam. It must have been such a relief to find a doctor that is caring and understands what you are going through.

It's too bad you still have to deal with the special education person from the school. But, it must have felt kind of nice to be able to put her in her place with all the documentation the doctor gave you!!!

Sorry to hear your husband is having troubles too. When it rains it pours! Hang in there and take care of yourself so you can be strong for your family.

Thanks for the update. I hope you will continue to keep us posted. I am sending positive thoughts your way.

Take care, & many blessings,

LJ

Lady_Jade, Yes it is very nice for a change to have a Dr who is willing to listen and care about your child. It has been very frustrating up to this point. To be honest, it felt Very good to say what I did to her. I had felt like I had no power as a parent and finally today I felt like I got some of that back. Yes hubby is now also having great worries and what if's. Your right about when it rains it pours, but we have umbrellas so........

RaevynKiss, I didnt understand that the money thing was such a big deal, but when the Dr said that it really hit home and really made me angry. I could go on and on, but dont want to rant, trying to gather strength for myself so I can be strong for the family. Needless to say, It pisses me off royally!

Tomorrow, I take my older daughter into another Dr to be tested. She wont admit it, but she wants tested because she is afraid she might have it also. (esp. since she heard what Sams Dr said about her Dad) Then on Friday is court again, so keep your fingers crossed that the Judge will just write this off. Then later Mandy goes to the dentist. Sheesh, I will be glad when this is over with. I think when it is I will hibernate for a month, lol!

Thanks everyone for the support, It means so much.......

Neena,it's sounds to me that you found the Doctor that you needed,one who listens,I pray that tomorrow goes well for you,BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

Please bear with me as I am stewing in Vicodan and Prednisone trying to write this.
This am getting ready to go to court, my back spased out and I wound up in the ER. Turns out after 6 xrays and blood work etc., I have a slipped disk and if things arent better by Monday am, I have to have a MRI and back surgery!!!
I rolled over in bed about 2 weeks ago, and my back popped. Since then it has gotten progressively worse and I have been taking 4 Ibroprophen about every 3 hours but this morning I guess my body had had enough.
I didnt get to go to court, but learned that hubby and Mandy went and Sam isnt even enrolled!! They unenrolled her due to her missing 10 consective days! Hubby is on 9 months probation and we either have to re enroll her or home school her. The judge didnt fine him tho, so that is good.
I am just about ready to scream tho..... How am I suppose to home school her if I cant even stand up??? How can I send her to school if that is what is causing this anxiety/Depression which she is now on meds for and her Dr said tutoring???? They wont send tutors to our house because" the tutors have allergies to pets"
Sheesh! *Hits head agains wall* I am so frustrated right now dont know if I wnat to scream or cry or what....